How to Use a Dagyde Candle for Banishment?

When a bond becomes burdensome, invasive, or destructive, it can take root in the energy like a knotted, taut, worn thread. A dagyde candle can then be used to represent this bond, name it, and symbolically cut it. This ritual does not seek to erase someone, but to free yourself from a negative attachment, reclaim your place, and establish a clear separation. It is an act of sovereignty.

1. How do you prepare the candles for this work?

You choose two dagydes: one for yourself and one for the person concerned. You can use dark colors if the bond is charged (black, gray), or neutral colors (white) if you simply want to sever it without conflict.

You write a first name on each figure. You place them facing each other, about 20 cm apart, connected by a black thread, string, or ribbon. This bond symbolizes attachment, the unspoken, the invisible thread. You set your intention: “I cut what binds me, what troubles me, what exhausts me.”

You can surround the scene with herbs such as rue, rosemary, or mugwort, to purify and support the severing.

2. How do you activate the separation during the ritual?

First, you light your own dagyde. Then the other person’s. You observe the flames. You let the bond between the two begin to heat up, melt, or become taut. You remain focused on your intention: reclaim your energy, free yourself, and bring things to an end.

You can use a cutting object (scissors, blade) to cut the thread when you feel that the energy is ready. The gesture should be simple, without anger or revenge. You are not destroying the other person. You are cutting what prevents you from being yourself.

You can then gently move the two dagydes away from each other, or turn them back to back. You let the candles burn down completely.

3. What should you do with the wax remnants?

You can bury yours in a protective place and throw the other person’s in a location far from your everyday life. If you prefer to bring the work to a complete close, you can throw both wax remnants into running water or into the earth, inwardly marking the end of the bond.

You can also burn a little sage or camphor after the ritual to mark a clean break.

Cutting a toxic bond with a dagyde does not mean erasing someone. It means setting a boundary, catching your breath, and freeing what was trapping you. And through this liberation, you find yourself more whole.